Description: A transformative journey for white settlers seeking truth, healing, and repair.
Becoming a Good Relative weaves Hilary Giovale's personal story of transformation with historical research, spiritual teachings, and practical tools. Giovale offers warm, compassionate, and vulnerable personal stories to reveal how unlearning fragility, becoming antiracist, and repairing ancestral harm can feel. She invites readers beyond intellectual analysis into intuition, dreams, and practical rituals.
This memoir is for white people curious about moving beyond white fragility and into robust healing. Discover inspiration to direct more funding to communities of Color. Learn how to build resilience and commit to reparations for the long term. Explore how to:
- Heal from the wounds of colonialism
- Embrace Indigenous wisdom
- Practice interpersonal philanthropy
Review Quotes: "Hilary's journey is supported by deep community, ancestral figures, and liminal experiences. This is the meaningful and transformational work the world needs, rooted in action while engaging the head, heart, and hand."--Jude Lally, Scottish Cultural Activist and Artist (pathoftheancestralmothers.com)
"This is a profoundly brave book. In sharing her journey, in all its pain, revelation, and imperfectness, Hilary has woven both a reckoning and a calling-home. May her offering embolden many more of us with white settler lineages to do the work of becoming good relatives-work that is essential for a shared future of well-being and liberation."--Joanna Levitt Cea, co-author, Beloved Economies: Transforming How We Work "In Becoming a Good Relative, with an unflinching gaze Giovale offers her own story as a pathway for settlers to reach into their own stories for the tools they need to become whole. Being a good relative begins with knowing yourself. This book is a beautiful invitation to accept and transform personal and collective settler histories and live alongside Indigenous peoples."--Patty Krawec, Ojibwe Anishinaabe/Ukrainian. author of Becoming Kin: An Indigenous Call to Unforgetting the Past and Reimagining Our Future "Becoming a Good Relative is an invitation to walk out the door, take a long, slow breath, humbly listen to the people and lands outside, and let our hearts break open with their stories of what we and our ancestors have done. Hilary's story is an invitation to join her. She's holding the door open for all of us."--Morgan Curtis, Ancestors and Money Coach and author of Decolonial Dames of America "Told with utter honesty, humility and profound respect for all of her sources, Becoming a Good Relative not only draws readers in magnetically, it should be required reading for anyone embarking on a journey toward healing and right relationship. This book humanizes Turtle Island's and Giovale's own brutal historical legacies, resulting in a journey that's been blessed by many relatives and alchemized by love."--Nina Simons