Description: Every person is wired for love differently--with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how.
Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third--any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs. By using simple gestures and words, you'll learn to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel appreciated and loved. You'll also discover how to move past a "warring brain" mentality and toward a more cooperative "loving brain." Most importantly, you'll gain a better understanding of the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.Brief description:
Harville Hendrix, PhD, a clinical pastoral counselor and cocreator of Imago Relationship Therapy, has more than thirty-five years of experience as an educator, public lecturer, and couples' therapist. He is the author of a number of successful books on intimate relationships and parenting, including Receiving Love, Getting the Love You Want, The Personal Companion, Giving the Love that Heals, and many others. He has appeared on many television shows, including a number of guest appearances on the Oprah Winfrey Show. His work has also been written about in many publications nationwide. Harville holds a PhD in psychology and theology from the University of Chicago and divides his time between New York and New Mexico.