Description: Everyone has their own concept of what monogamy means--and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make a recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it's impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.
Brief description: Tammy Nelson, PhD, is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist, board-certified sexologist, certified sex therapist, and certified Imago Relationship therapist. She is a TEDx speaker, the host of the podcast The Trouble with Sex, and the author of several books, including Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together, The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity, and When You're the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know. She is the founder and executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute, training and certifying psychotherapists to be sex and couple therapists. She has been a featured expert in the New York Times Magazine, the Washington Post, the Wall Street Journal, CNN, Rolling Stone magazine, Redbook, Glamour, the Sun, the London Times, and a source in Time magazine.