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A highly-interactive guide to explore your attachment style, understand your internal patterns, and build lasting, secure relationships, from the author of The Power of Attachment
"A trustworthy map for understanding and healing our earliest wounds."--Mark Wolynn, author of It Didn't Start With You"At our core, every one of us is designed for secure connection," writes attachment theory expert Diane Poole Heller, PhD. But the trauma of early childhood experiences, especially from parents and caregivers, can challenge our ability to build healthy connections. The same skills we develop to cope as children can become the patterns that haunt our relationships as adults. In The Attachment Workbook, Dr. Heller offers a hands-on resource to create the secure relationships that are possible for each one of us. The Attachment Workbook offers: - A quiz to help you understand your attachment style--secure, avoidant, anxious/ambivalent, or disorganized
- Insights that many of us have more than one attachment style and different styles for different relationships
- More than 50 highly interactive exercises, including audio meditations to download or stream
- Invitations to celebrate the superpowers of our attachment style
- Reflections that help us identify where our attachment style sabotages our relationships
- Strategies to build secure attachment and stronger relationships. Dr. Heller writes, "It's not enough to simply understand attachment in our minds. Our nervous system learns by doing, by feeling, by practicing." This workbook helps us embody what we learn. "You're not broken or missing a piece," writes Dr. Heller. "You don't need to 'become' someone else. This is the good news about healing our attachment adaptations. Secure attachment is part of your biology." This workbook helps us uncover and strengthen our capacity for secure connection.
Brief description: DIANE POOLE HELLER, PhD, is an expert in attachment theory, trauma resolution, and integrative healing techniques. A dynamic speaker and teacher, Diane has been featured at prestigious international events and conferences. She created the professional training program Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience (DARe) and is the author of numerous articles, the audio program Healing Your Attachment Wounds, and the book The Power of Attachment.
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"Diane Poole Heller has designed a trustworthy map for understanding and healing our earliest wounds. Chock-full of simple practices and practical tools, this workbook offers a path toward wholeness that's both easy and accessible, one in which the reader feels seen, safe, embraced, and encouraged."--Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute, author of It Didn't Start With You "Your attachment patterns are not your destiny. Dr. Heller brings this science to life in a workbook that is both deeply informed and genuinely kind. She provides us the small, repeated experiences that teach the nervous system a new story. If your body learned early that closeness wasn't safe, this workbook will show you--gently, at your own pace--that it can learn something different."--Aimie Apigian, MD, MS, author of The Biology of Trauma "A grounded, compassionate, and highly practical guide to healing attachment where it actually lives--in the body and in relationship. Diane Poole Heller delivers a workbook that doesn't just teach--you feel it working."--Dr. Scott Lyons, founder of The Embody Lab, author of Addicted to Drama "The attachment stances we've learned in childhood are not fixed in stone. With intentional effort we can learn the skills to transform our lives towards security. In Diane Poole Heller's practical and powerful Attachment Workbook, we are offered actionable knowledge based on a scientific understanding of attachment--how we connect with our caregivers--to move our learned patterns of non-secure attachment into the resilience and joy of security. Weaving neurobiology, bodily awareness, and practical exercises that harness the power of the mind to transform the brain, this wonderful guide teaches how to regulate our nervous systems, engage in mutually rewarding relationships, and acquire the inner strength of security that is available to each of us no matter our age. A wonderful aid for personal growth and a clinician's toolkit, this book will be accessible and useful for anyone looking to live with more freedom in their inner and relational lives!"--Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., New York Times bestselling author of Mindsight, Aware, and Parenting from the Inside Out "We are all motivated by powerful unconscious forces, particularly as they show up in our intimate relationships. To find the enduring love we seek, we need to master these forces. Dr. Heller uncovers the attachment patterns that contain these wounds. She takes it one step further and helps us--with deep self-compassion and dignity--learn how to heal them. This allows us to no longer be at their mercy and truly transform our relationships. Read, learn, and open to the alive relationships that are attainable, both for ourselves and for others."--Peter A. Levine, author of Waking the Tiger and An Autobiography of Trauma