Description:
Hidden in Plain Sight is a psychological non-fiction book about relationships and the hidden internal world of men.
Brief description: Avrum G. Weis, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist who sees individuals and couples for psychotherapy online. Dr. Weiss is recognized nationally for his pioneering work on the process of change in individuals and organizations. He is the author of three books and hundreds of articles, published on The Good Men Project, Psychology Today, and elsewhere.
Review Quotes:
"Dr. Avrum Weiss' book Hidden in Plain Sight beautifully weaves together the personal and collective stories of fearful men and women, bringing us closer to understanding the real complexity of male-female relationships-not a small feat! Dr. Weiss' wisdom and perspective illuminate the influence of power and privilege on gender. His empathy for men's struggles is palpable and kind, as is his ability to locate the source of pain: not in men or women but in patriarchy itself.
This is a courageous book that can help all of us move beyond polarizing gender stereotypes. Radical empathy offers the possibility of real change; Dr. Weiss' balanced and deep empathy shows us the way out of the isolation of silence and how, together, we can gather skills and create hope, bringing about personal and social wellbeing. If we are to change the world, we must first reduce the fear that hustles us toward isolation and silence. Hidden in Plain Sight opens the way for fresh and frank discussions between women and men." Judith V Jordan. Ph.D., Assistant Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, Author of Relational-Cultural Therapy
"This book is needed now more than ever. I want to buy it for everyone I know. When men go silent, all of us lose something vital. To live with, love, raise, and work with boys and men, it is imperative that we understand the world as men live in it. Dr. Weiss has truly written a new psychology of men." Carrie Phillips, LISW
"I had honestly never in my life heard men talk this way, to articulate that the women in their lives were so profoundly important to them that they were constantly terrified we'd leave them-a threat I had often made in my rages, semi-seriously at times, assuming it had no impact." Anonymous female participant of Dr. Weiss' "Men's Fears of Women" workshop.
"In this thought-provoking book, Dr. Weiss blends decades of clinical experience and brutally honest personal accounts to illustrate the underlying emotional roadblocks that interfere with men's relationships with women. He explores attachment and separation in parent-child relationships and the gender role socialization process that men experience in society at large. The reader is left with a blueprint for understanding conflicts in relationships and for making the course corrections that can lead to more authentic and fulfilling relationships. I will incorporate these insights into my future clinical work with couples." Bill DeFranc, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, University of Massachusetts, Boston
"Although centered on relational fears of straight men, Hidden in Plain Sight will enrich gay men's understanding of fears that might exist in any intimate pair. More importantly, it might help you understand a possibly universal conflict of gay youths. As a child I thought I was an outsider looking into the world of masculinity. I felt unsettled at not being fully male and thought that straight kids really knew what I did not: how to be a boy and ultimately a man. I now see how straight guys were just as lost as I was in feeling not masculine enough. I was an outsider among outsiders!" Robert Carrere, Ph.D., ABPP, Psychoanalyst/Clinical Psychologist