Description: As divorce rates rise, parents need resources to help them navigate high-conflict situations and put their children first. Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers practical tips and strategies to help parents manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for their children using dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting.
Brief description: Lauren J. Behrman, PhD, is a clinical psychologist with over thirty-three years in independent practice helping adults, children, and families work through transitions. She has evaluated and treated children and families since 1976 at Schneider Children's Hospital, Nassau BOCES, and as chief psychologist at the Child Development Center of the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services from 1985-1994. Behrman completed her postdoctoral training in child, adolescent, and family psychoanalytic psychotherapy at the Postgraduate Center for Mental Health in 1990. She has taught and supervised doctoral candidates, was adjunct professor in the graduate psychology departments at Long Island University, Yeshiva University, and New York University. She is a frequent presenter, author, teacher, and trainer for professionals in Basic Collaborative Divorce Practice. Behrman is a founding partner of The Practice Institute and the Center for Advanced Professional Education at University of Redlands in Redlands, CA. She is in independent practice in New York City and Westchester County, NY. You can find Behrman on the web at www.laurenbehrmanphd.com, and can read and subscribe to the authors' blog and newsletter at www.mydivorcerecovery.com.
Review Quotes: "In this book, Lauren Behrman and Jeffrey Zimmerman have given divorcing parents a remarkable resource for 'radical acceptance' of one's former spouse as he or she actually is--the starting point for putting aside attachment to who is right and who is wrong, and instead cultivating the conditions in oneself for doing the best possible job of minimizing conflict and maximizing good parenting. Behrman and Zimmerman translate wisdom from many traditions--psychotherapy, brain science, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), mindful awareness, and much more into very practical tools and techniques for moving from victimhood toward competency and equanimity. While their book is addressed to parents in high-conflict divorces, the techniques they offer can make the challenges of raising kids in two households easier for every divorcing couple."
--Pauline H. Tesler, longtime family law specialist, fellow of the select American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, and founding director of the Integrative Law Institute at Commonweal--Pauline H. Tesler