Description: Is sex more important for gay men than for heterosexuals? If so, how will this work within a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage? This book answers these questions and offers gay men an easy-to-follow, practical framework to create ...
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"This book obviously has some meaning to this reviewer as a gay man in a relationship for nearly 50 years. Many more likely will be written in the future as marriage is reshaped to suit the social and legal standing of straight, gay male, and lesbian relationships. One assumption is that the three categories are separate, and those who identify with a particular one will have different experiences and seek different things from marriage.The format is interesting, with boxes highlighting topics for discussion and thought. The author, a psychotherapist, has also relied on the exchanges in advice columns that he has written over the years, and the text includes some of these letters and his responses. Such stylistic decisions make the book an interesting read and lighter in some ways than might be expected. Summing Up: Recommended. High school through undergraduate students; general readers; professionals/practitioners." --Choice Reviews
"Engaging, candid and filled with insightful practical advice, Kimmel's The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage is a timely, compassionate invitation to challenge cultural norms and forge our own ways of loving." --David Charles Manners, author of Limitless Sky "The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage is a valuable look in to the unique challenges that gay male marriages face. Kimmel is refreshingly frank and most importantly, he understands and navigates the nuances of male-male relationships." --Craig Laurance Gidney, Two-Time Lambda Literary Award Finalist "For the gay man who's married, going to be married, or in a dating relationship, Michael Dale Kimmel gives an honest, insightful, and fun look at how to make sex, love, conflict, and competition work--both in and out of bed." --Alex Sanchez, author of Rainbow Boys "A complete guide to what gay men experience in relationships. Finally, a book on sexual relationships, just for us." --Adam D. Blum, MFT, Founder and Director, Gay Therapy Center "Finally, an intelligent, compassionate guide to help navigate the complex waters of sexuality in gay relationships! Filled with insights, secrets, and practical tools, this groundbreaking work will help you forge a path to love and intimacy that truly works for you." --Mark Matousek, author of Sex Death Enlightenment and When You're Falling, Dive "The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage is for anyone who is wanting to bring awareness and consciousness to the choices they make in their relationships and having the marriage that they dream of and deserve. Cheers to Michael Dale Kimmel for helping all of us in the gay community better take care of each others hearts." --Conrad Ricamora, star of "How to get away with Murder" "I actually got emotional about the suggestions Kimmel provided for giving one another time and space to process when things get heated, and apologizing through action if words don't come as easily. I reflected on how many of my past relationships would have benefited from this simple guide for "double testosterone" conflict resolution. Being right doesn't mean we win in a relationship. This is one of many crucial points the book illuminates. A great read." --Darryl Stephens, author, Required Reading: How to Get Your Life for Good "Michael Dale Kimmel offers an unflinchingly honest perspective into the relatively unknown territory of the "Double Testosterone" marriage. As a relationship anthropologist of sorts, Kimmel has excavated the roots of holy matrimony, while trimming away the branches that no longer serve us, allowing the birth of a new age of partnership. A must read for any same-sex couple or individual questioning how & where we can discover our own happily-ever-after." --Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman, Actor and LGBTQ activist (Unreal, Love by the 10th Date) "A smart, thorough, no-judgements guide book to the discussions every gay couple should have (but rarely do) before they even think about ring shopping." --Michael Bastian, designer "Growing up as the only gay individual in my family (that I know of), it was and still is very easy to fall into a heteronormative sense of self. What Michael illustrates and analyzes so beautifully and meticulously in this book is the beauty and complexity of being different in an institutionalized, heterosexualized world. I only wish this book had come out when I was a young adult to help guide me through some of my past relationships. Being gay is unique and special. And the wealth of experience and knowledge from evident years of practice and research that pours from this book is just that: unique. A definite must read for any man navigating the tricky waters of loving another man. The takeaway for me? There is no one way to do anything. And never be ashamed or afraid to ask for what you want out of love. Because you deserve it." --Matthew Risch, actor, writer "I'm grateful to be part of the first LGBT generation that reached adulthood knowing gay marriage was a reality. But now what? In this book, Michael Dale Kimmel has provided us with a nuanced look at the question we face next in our evolution: What can our marriages become now that we have them? I recommend this read for any man who's ever dreamt of saying 'I do' to the one they love." --Michael J. Willett, actor, G.B.F. and Faking It