Description: "Why do we assume romantic relationships are more important than friendships? What do we lose when we expect a spouse to meet all our needs? And what can we learn about commitment, love, and family from people who put deep friendship at the center of their lives? ... Cohen invites us into the lives of people who have defied convention by choosing a friend as a life partner--these are friends who are home co-owners, co-parents, or each other's caregivers. Their ... stories unsettle widespread assumptions about relationships, including the idea that sex is a defining feature of partnership and that people who raise kids together should be in a romantic relationship"--
Brief description: Rhaina Cohen is an award-winning producer and editor for NPR's documentary podcast, Embedded. Her work, often focused on social connection, has aired on numerous podcasts and radio shows, including Hidden Brain, Invisibilia, and All Things Considered, and her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Washington Post, The New Republic and elsewhere. The recipient of a fellowship from the National Endowment for the Humanities, Cohen is a graduate of Northwestern University and Oxford, where she was a Marshall Scholar. She lives in Washington, D.C. with her husband, friends, and her friends' children.
Review Quotes:
"I loved and recommend [The Other Significant Others] to everybody." --Ezra Klein
"It's become my new bible." --Trevor Noah
"Remarkable...a timely invitation to expand how we think about love, care, and the structures that hold us." --Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
"Rhaina Cohen's moving, intimate portraits of people in unusually devoted friendships upend our cultural narratives about which relationships matter. A perceptive and vivid reporter, she reveals that there are far more pathways to deep connection and fulfillment than we've been made to believe. The Other Significant Others is an arresting work of compassion and insight." --Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of Dear Therapists podcast
"I feel like I've been waiting for this book for my entire adult life. The Other Significant Others is a radical and deeply persuasive argument for prioritizing the best friendships that ground us, that complete us, that make us feel loved and allow us to love others so deeply in return." --Anne Helen Petersen, author of Can't Even and co-author of Out of Office "Terrific and important." --Dan Savage
"We have seen society can broaden its definition of love, and The Other Significant Others shows we can go further still. Through unforgettable stories, Rhaina Cohen makes a crucial case for expanding the range of committed relationships we recognize. A captivating call to embrace love in all its profound forms." --Jim Obergefell, lead plaintiff in Obergefell v. Hodges and co-author of Love Wins
"[T]his is not some saccharine ode to BFF-dom. Cohen reports on several real-life examples that defy convention, each carving out a unique path that reveals radical approaches to how we show up for one another." --Mother Jones "[An] illuminating debut . . . a smart and heartfelt testament to the power of social bonds outside 'compulsory coupledom.'" --Publishers Weekly
"Thought-provoking . . . engaging . . . an enlightening read. This book serves as a powerful catalyst for readers to question societal norms and broaden their understanding of meaningful connections. Inspiring." --Booklist
"Written with empathy, curiosity and a clear knack for storytelling . . . The Other Significant Others offers readers an insightful and intimate look at what life could be like if we broaden our horizons beyond 'compulsory coupledom' and welcome the idea that 'romantic relationships' are not the only unions that can shape our lives." --Bookpage (starred review)
"Cohen presents an eye-opening exploration of the many ways friendship, in various forms, can enrich and empower lives for the better." --Shelf Awareness
"An eloquent collection of stories from different pairs of friends, spanning the gamut of age, sexual orientation and social class . . . poignant." --The Guardian