Description:
The Betrayal Bind addresses the devastating impact of discovering a partner's sexual betrayal. Offering groundbreaking insights, it provides betrayed partners with the tools to understand their attachment-based reactions and begin healing.
Brief description: Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S is a licensed professional counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the founder of the Relational Recovery Institute and the creator of the Attachment-Focus Partner Betrayal Model.(TM)
Review Quotes:
"In The Betrayal Bind, Mays uses attachment theory to educate and empower hurting partners. Through a compassionate use of storytelling, she shares profound insights, normalizes partner's experiences, and provides encouragement and support. It is a must read for any person experiencing betrayal." - STEFANIE CARNES, PhD. President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals and author of Courageous Love.
"Mays speaks the unvarnished truth about the impact of intimate betrayal with warmth and compassion as she guides the reader on a hero's journey from pain to grace. She accurately describes the emotionally harrowing, complex experience of betrayal trauma without pathologizing either party. With neuro-scientific accuracy, Mays explains why fear, shame, and powerlessness drive attachment ambivalence and how to shift out of it. The Betrayal Bind illuminates a clear and empowering path forward toward creating safety, sexual healing, and reclaiming an authentic sense of self. This book is a must-read for the betrayed, betrayers, and therapists." -Alexandra Katehakis, author, Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence
"Michelle Mays weaves personal insight, beautiful writing, current attachment science, and clinical expertise to share this gift with us. With gentle respect for the busy brain, The Betrayal Bind reaches her reader where the heart is, guiding us to a deeper understanding of why sexual betrayal is so devastating. Michelle helps us hold ourselves, our friends, our family, and/or our clients with the utmost compassion in the aftermath of betrayal. I recommend this book for not only those swimming in the deep water of sexual betrayal, but also for adults living with the intimate betrayal that happens when our first caregivers are abusive." -Kelly McDaniel, LPC, trauma therapist and author of Ready to Heal and Mother Hunger